First, I'd like to lead with a figure from the book: 90% of people have a fear of mingling. That's a lot of people not mingling to their full potential. This was a quick and easy read and I got a few key take-aways. I live in Louisville, and it's a very close knit and closed environment. One of the first things you are usually asked in conversation is 'What high school did you go to?' I even heard this asked to a woman who was celebrating her 50th birth day. Think jack hammer when you think breaking the ice here in Louisville.

In addition to opening lines, the book gave a few other suggestions. Look at what people are wearing, and you will find your best traction with people dressed as you are dressed. Easy targets are two people that are arranged in a crescent, looking out into the crowd. Body language is key. Larger groups are easier to approach; people usually drift in and out unnoticed. When 'breaking in' to a group, don't introduce yourself, don't shake hands, just start talking. Most of all, look for extroverts or people with energy.

Ice braking advice:
• Tell a white lie if you have to
• 'Excuse me, I hope you don't mind, but I don't know a single soul here, I'm Paul"
• Entry with flattery - kids, pets, comments on accessories (ear rings)
• Sophistication test - only one, two people at time, "How did you get here?" - "what do you think" "what's your connection here?"
• 'This music reminds me of ...'
• Compliment the food

The last ice breaking advise I tried at a Jazz Jam party I went to, and I was complimenting a woman on her queso dip, and I asked what is in it, and she blankly stared at me and said, 'Cheese.' Be prepared, or at least be able to think on your feet.